Intrapersonal Communication-Creative

In the 2009 film, “He’s Just Not that Into You”, viewers get a chance to assess a number of different relationships. Because love is in fact blind, watching a relationship from the outside can bring you a refreshing perspective on dating. Throughout the movie, some relationships break, and some grow. The main character, Gigi, cannot seem to meet a great guy. Instead she waits for a phone call day in and day out from men she meets at a bar. The only problem is that she doesn’t know when to let go after the phone call never comes. Gigi’s work friend, Janine, seems to have the perfect marriage, until she hears that her husband has been cheating on her with a young yoga instructor. Janine’s husband is best friends with a man who cannot ask his girlfriend to marry him after they have been dating for seven years. I could go into this more and more, but it would get far too slippery and confusing. The thing that all the characters have in common is a problem with communication. Gigi is too clingy, and Janine wants comfort and commitment. This movie teaches us a lot about communication, and how it can badly affect our relationships with others. If the characters could step back, and assess the balance they have with their partners, they would determine that something is wrong. The way that these relationships fall apart and come together mirror the exact steps listed in chapter eight and nine of “Human Communication”. After Janine realizes that her marriage is in trouble internally, she seeks advice and help from others. When her husband feels the same, he confronts her about his affair. Both of them decide to stick it out and stay together, which ends up being a terrible idea. The marriage ends up failing, and Janine ends up kicking her husband out. Gigi also seems to have a problem with self-disclosure. She usually over shares, and ends up making herself vulnerable to the men she comes in contact with. She seems blind to the fact that good relationships take time and they are built on trust. Neil, who at first could not commit to marriage after seven years of dating Beth, ends up realizing that she is the person for him. Both Neil and Beth trust each other, and have spent enough time together that they have built a set of rules and norms. The movie proves to be an absorbing drama, and it is perfect for anyone who has experienced a tumultuous relationship.